Posted by ells on November 12, 2007, at 21:30:01
Hi- I hope someone can help me here... I'm new here, have been doing a lot of reading of the archives and recent subjects concerning crushes on therapists and relationships. I've also ordered the book that was recommended to see if it can help me..
My son is currently in a very intensive out-patient program and I have completely fallen for the therapist who is working 1:1 with him. There is definitely a chemistry, but it has not been actively acknowledged. He's in a relationship and I'm married. But there is something..
When the object of a crush in a therapeutic situation is not my own therapist, but someone who is in a sense fulfilling a sort of fatherly role for my son and hence kind of like what a spouse should be doing, is this still considered a type of transference? My husband is not involved at all w/our kids and this fellow is providing something that my son isn't getting otherwise, and in a sense, like I mentioned above, kind of figuratively fulfilling the role of a father and spouse I am dreading the time when my son will be exiting the program.
How best to address this.. do I let it just pass as if it were a passing crush and let it just play itself out or am I doing harm for my son by harboring these feelings towards his therapist?
Thx.
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