Posted by antigua3 on November 10, 2007, at 9:59:44
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after Therapy//Me too, posted by RealMe on November 9, 2007, at 21:20:50
Sorry to hijack the thread, but Real Me, don't you think dealing with your husband IS part of the therapy? That there are patterns there that you no longer wish to put up with, and you're trying to find a way to deal with him differently?
My T says the same thing as I think it was you who mentioned it (if not, sorry I don't remember who). Don't engage him so that he can continue his behavior. That little piece of advice has been enormously helpful to me. When my husband goes off on something, I just look at him now and say "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I don't." I always feel like everything is my fault, but I see now it's not. And here I thought I picked this man because he was so different from my father, but as we've aged, I see some similarities. Not enough to change our relationship (divorce or anything), but enough for me to stand up for myself more.
sorry about the hijack!
antigua
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