Posted by twinleaf on October 20, 2007, at 0:44:32
He has penetrating eyes, and keeps looking at me so intently. I get unnerved. Then he says things like, "what just happened?" or "what were you thinking just then? I get more unnerved. I am realizing that he expects me to say EVERY SINGLE THING. That was true with the old T., too, but, with this one, for some reason, it's a lot harder to do it. I fall silent, He asks again.
me: "well, I was actually feeling just a whisper of sexual desire for you" (extremely nervous)
T: " and if that whisper became a roar I'd fall apart with anxiety?"
In an instant, we are both laughing- (shocked, delighted, not anxious any more). He's letting me know he won't fall apart. Well, anyway, this is the kind of stuff that keeps happening. This T does everything differently from the old T, even though they did all their training together. Any time something very intense comes up, he gets witty. But it's not a defensive kind of wittiness. It seems to be meant to help cut down the anxiety- then we become serious again, and are ready to go into it more deeply- and do. He seems very nimble and quick, mentally- that's very nice. And although his eyes are intent, they are also kind. Completely new experience.
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