Posted by Dinah on October 19, 2007, at 21:41:11
In reply to Back in the black hole, posted by TherapyGirl on October 19, 2007, at 14:31:09
My therapist sometimes gets in fixing mode when he gets a bit too invested in my feeling better. Sometimes I tell him that I just need to be able to feel bad for a while, and I need for him to just be with me.
Strangely, or maybe not so strangely, when he does that I'm able to let him in a lot more and sooner or later I'm ready to address the more practical things.
I think it's great that you were able to tell her what you needed and she did respond, even if it was too late for this session. I hope she remembers for next session.
I won't try to fix, or to tell you that things will be better down the road. And I know how horrible it can be to look thirty years down the road. I try to avoid it. Looking one step ahead is all I can manage sometimes, and sometimes not even that. I just need to sit still and feel really bad. And hope that maybe someone's willing to sit with me until I'm ready to get up.
I'll bet your therapist is willing to do that, as mine is, once she pulls herself together and stops being afraid for you or sad for you or wanting better for you. And I'm sure Babble's ready to do it. I don't know if you have pets, but they're great for that.
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