Posted by rskontos on October 17, 2007, at 10:57:25
In reply to Re: quick note... :o), posted by Dory on October 17, 2007, at 8:42:12
Dory, JMHO but I think he migh always want you to believe it was big. I think in a way because we live through the stuff we mimimze it to the extent that we then believe it wasn't such a big deal. I have had the same validation from my T and a dear friend who cried when I told her a 1/4 of what happened.
Just because you survived somehow doesnt mean that what you went through wasn't huge. And just because you didn't share what was actually written he probably saw all the emotions and anguish on your face while you were writing it. He might have even felt it. so you still shared it. YOu think you did the drop and run but because he got it you still shared only in a different way. Don't mimimize that as your T sounds very caring and in tune with your feeelings. I think it is ok to care about him as he sounds like a caring T that does get the pain you are in and is really trying to help. I think this was a good session you should be able to see you make tons of progress. I understand the need to more validation maybe somehow you want proof but realize that even without seeing it in writing he believes that you went a big ordeal and that is worth a lot. I think you are on your way to owning them! rk
poster:rskontos
thread:789674
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20071009/msgs/789742.html