Posted by pegasus on October 16, 2007, at 10:42:48
In reply to One thing about my T that bugs me., posted by seldomseen on October 16, 2007, at 7:43:32
Hi seldomseen,
Yeah, some therapists always do that. For example, if you read any of Ivin Yalom's books, he's always doing that. At first I thought it was kind of narcissistic, but then I learned about the theory behind it. Which, as I understand it, is that when you can bring teh conversation around to relate to the actual relationship that is in the room, you can sometimes learn things in a more immediate, and therefore, theoretically, more effective way, than you do when you talk about things that are in the past or future. In other words, if you talk about what you are feeling right in that moment, then it can often be more meaningful. So, some therapists are always working on your feelings toward them, because that's part of what is immediately happening in the here and now of your sessions. Does that make sense.
And, then, there is also always the possibility that this orientation appeals to your T because he's also a little narcissistic, or otherwise stimulated by it. They all have their motivations, too, I suppose. :)
peg
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