Posted by Dory on October 13, 2007, at 23:56:53
In reply to Re: I felt like giving up tonight, posted by Deneb on October 13, 2007, at 23:18:56
Deneb, i am going to be very reserved in what i say. i have come to care about you for being you, quirkiness and all. i don't want you to think that the way to get attention is through negative means. i think you know that now, i think you did a lot of hard work to get to that point. Everything i am saying i am trying to say in a positive way so i hope it comes out right.
You know from experience that it is likely your thinking which has lead you to feel so bad. You have been through this before.
It does *not* mean that feeling bad isn't valid for you. You have as much right as anyone else to feel bad sometimes. It's a normal thing to sometimes compare yourself to others and maybe feel bad. i do it, and so does everyone else. The thing is to know when to stop and to not allow it to get you down. You made a big step by knowing that it's your thinking that caused this.
But you know the things to do right? You have been taught how to make changes in your thinking. If you made a list of all the positives in your life, you'd feel pretty good... especially compare those positives to how things were even a year ago.
remember, other people aren't walking in your shoes. i think about other people sometimes and i have to remind myself that they don't have all the medical problems i have. i get jealous that my friend runs triathalons... i can't even do a 1hr walk. But that's not what life is about and it doesn't get us very far right?
There is a great poem called the Dessiderata (sp?) which says "...do not compare yourself to others as there will always be those who are greater or lesser than yourself.."
there are people with more money and better jobs and there are people on the street without a dime.
you're doing good deneb. Life isn't a contest.
so people care ok? you're a good person and you are doing good. Take pride in who you are and how far you have come.
poster:Dory
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