Posted by rskontos on October 8, 2007, at 11:25:36
In reply to those letters you write without meaning to send, posted by pegasus on October 8, 2007, at 11:04:45
Peg, I am the older sister forced to parent the younger. My younger sister and I finally had that talk. It did us a world of good. She was angry too and didn't understand why I did what I did. She didn't understand I was protecting her from the illness and dirtyness of my parents violent relationship. Once she knew I wasn't trying to isolate her, I of course didn't know how she felt I was doing the best a 15 year old can be expected to do. We were both victims in a very bad situations. Trying to survive. We are doing great now and talk all the time. We are both unconnected to the world but we try to connect to each other. We love each other. We try to remember each other is there. It is tough but are making it work. It is always worth a try because while there is always good and bad you still share blood and something could be great is a possiblity. Now I have another sister and I have no idea where she lives. We will probably always be estranged. Just the way it is. Write them. Put them away for a few days and then re-read them. If you want to still send them go ahead. It might be tough for her, it was tough for me to hear what my sister said but we worked through it all and now it is worth it all. We yelled, hey we are sisters, we screamed, we listened and we finally got through it.....
Good luck, let me know how it goes. rk
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