Posted by RealMe on October 3, 2007, at 0:27:29
In reply to DID spectrum and integration..., posted by B2chica on October 2, 2007, at 11:58:39
Gosh B2, I am sorry I am only now getting to your post. First of all, this is a huge fear with people who have DID, that they will lose a part with integration. From experience, I can tell you that does not happen. The parts or persons or alters or whatever you want to call them are still all there. They just all sort of know about each other and can communicate with each other. With intergration, it is more like what most people are like, and some people are just not aware of that fact. For example, many people don't realize they have a child within. Not so distint obviously but there nevertheless. Since there is communication between the parts so to speek, they let each other know when it might not be okay to act a certain way for example, when it is appropriate and when not. Hey there are times I still act like a 10 year old for exmaple. I get to decide, however, when I am going to be that kid and act like a kid rather than be surprised.
When I was working in the Trauma Recovery Program at Menninger's, this was the biggest fear of someone with DID or what used to be called MPD, that integration would mean losing some part of one's self. It does not mean that at all. For me the one part that does not say or do much is the infant who used to pee and poop the bed. She seems okay now and feels cared about and does not complain. She brings out the tender part of me with others too. The kid likes to have fun and clown around, but she also has lots of pain and feelings of loneliness. I have a very angry teen who doesn't want to take sh*t from anyone but ends up getting hurt. I also have one that would be willing to have sex with anyone just about if I let her. We all decided that would not be good. I am talking as if they are still separate, but they aren't. It's like a team effort. I don't know if this makes any sense.
RealMe
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