Posted by muffled on September 21, 2007, at 9:56:43
In reply to Re: huh? honest question? » Deputy Racer, posted by pegasus on September 21, 2007, at 9:43:57
> > > would it be fair to say that *i* feel attacked on occasion this is why *i* feel like i don't fit in...
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> > In response to your question, though, the answer is no. Saying "I feel attacked" implies that there was an attacker, which violates the civility guidelines. That's a topic which has come up before regarding "I Statements."
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> Whoa, really? I thought Dory's restatement sounded good. If she says she felt attacked, that doesn't necessarily imply that anyone was intending to attack. Isn't that right? So, what would be ok here? Would something like this be ok:
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> I feel defensive when I read some posts, as if I am being attacked.
**Sigh, the mystereies of babble. I just wanted to TRY and answer cuz it IS so confusing, its like a puzzle, I wanna try.
So I would say that Statement could still make it seem like there are attackers out there. And given that nature of our population here...well, I speak for myself(this is what my T says...) is that I tend to immediately personalize statetens that she says. For eg, there was frustration in her tone yesterday, I immediately assumed she was angry with me, when its turns out, she was in fact frustrated with life, that she couldn't do more, but wished she could. So she was NOT in any way mad at me. So if I read this statement a few years ago it would have botherd me, cuz I would have personalized. But thankfully I don't so much no more.
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> When I read some posts, I think that people feel hostile toward me and/or the board.**I have the same response to this one..
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> I have negative reactions to some statements that are considered civil, and then I feel like I don't fit in.**that would be OK for me, and I REALLY goto run, dang!
> Sorry, just trying to understand. I thought I had this thing down.
*its crazymaking Peg, and I wish i had time, I love to puzzle this stuff out.
Goto go!
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