Posted by Dory on September 2, 2007, at 16:34:39
In reply to Re: Forced Termination - Dory, posted by ForeverWounded on September 2, 2007, at 1:07:09
That made me laugh outloud. i don't know... you know him best. From his defensiveness now, who knows? If you do it's your doing ok? Please don't blame me if he has a set of kittens right there and then. haha..funny but not funny.
well... my best advice.. and remember, advice is cheap and easy and **has** to be true when you get it from a stranger over the internet right? But, personally.. i would take the parts that feel "right" to you out of what i said and write a letter in your own words. Use quotes if you want.
i really think it should be you telling him how this is making you feel... and you can use some of the stuff i wrote to help you explain why.
think about the risks you are taking... i think they are worht taking, but it's not me and i don't have to live with it. He might get mad, or defensive or whatever... or, he might absorb it and work with you. i have zero idea. My wording is pretty blunt and harsh. You don't catch flies with vinegar. Try a little honey. If you write using the word "i" more than the word "you" for example.
yeah, i am more on the re-write in your own words side. But i am glad it helped you. Sometimes we feel strong feelings but can't get sense from them. i do that a lot. i hope i helped you make sense of some of your feelngs.
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