Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on August 4, 2007, at 11:29:55
In reply to Re: The calm before the storm » B2chica, posted by slugdoo on August 4, 2007, at 8:31:18
hey slugdoo,
there's nothing wrong with you. what's happening to you is very natural. you say you feel like you're not in your own body? That you feel too calm?That's a protective mechanism, dissociation and depersonalization. Trying to protect you from the emotional content of your experience.
It's okay to feel that way. Give yourself permission to. Sometimes you need to come back to reality though, like when life calls and you need to drive your kids somewhere. This is not a good time for dissociation. I find that having a really cold drink in the car helps. my mom uses a toothpick when she drives (she's the queen of dissociation, btw).
But don't feel like "EMDR isn't working" or whatever... It's a process, and it certainly sounds like it IS working.
I'm sorry you don't want to post about yourself anymore. It is very unpleasant to feel exposed.
I think most of us struggle with that feeling in our everyday lives too. How much to reveal vs. how much to hold private.
whatever you decide, it will be the right decision.
-Ll
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