Posted by OzLand on August 3, 2007, at 23:55:00
In reply to Re: Therapist ***ttriggers*** » OzLand, posted by Phillipa on August 3, 2007, at 23:40:30
I am not talking about remembering things that may not have happened. I remember the abuse stuff and always have; at one time; parts of me were split off and parts did not realize about the other parts and what was I saying and doing. I have records to tell me what I said and did back then. But in terms of csa, I remember what I remember. That is not what I am referring to.
Therapists know more about patients in terms of, for example, how someone in the present reacts to situtions as a result of things that happened in the past. Or, a therapist can see defenses and ways in which a person gets in the way of himself or herself when trying to change. Or, for example, my therapist made the link about how I interpreted his comments as trying to tell me how to live my life when he certainly did not intend what he said to mean that. He linked this to my feeling as if he was inserting himself in me and the link then to csa when several different men did just that and also forced me to live my life according to their wishes. I never made that link before, and it has made a big difference. Now whenever I think someone in authority is trying to tell me how to live my life, or when it seems my husband is doing this, I take a step back now and think about how this is different from then. So, of course I want to work with someone who "knows" me better than I know myself. If I could make these connections,etc. I would not need therapy and would not be depressed.
Oz
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