Posted by sunnydays on August 1, 2007, at 22:09:14
In reply to Re: help, posted by slugdoo on August 1, 2007, at 17:10:22
My T called this evening. He said he couldn't really understand very well what I said on the message because I was crying too hard. But he was very good on the phone. I told him I was finally feeling like he had gotten back and then he left again. And the way he said it was so great, "It makes sense that you would be like, "Where are you going now? You just got back?" because you just got secure again. But I'm really there for you the same as always."
And he guessed at what I said in the message and asked me, "Was it something about it being just a job?" And I said yes, and he said, "No, it's not. I mean, yes, it's my job, but it's really important, really serious stuff. It's really serious and important."
And he offered to call me twice while he was gone. I was really reluctant to accept that because I didn't want to be annoying, but he kept saying it was totally fine with him, so we'll do that. And he said it made total sense that this would bring up scared feelings for me since there's such a strong attachment. And when I apologized for getting upset and said I really did understand he needed a vacation, he said, "I know you understand that. But you honestly don't need to apologize. There are plenty of other people who have a hard time and call and their therapist calls them back. It makes total sense to me that you would be having a hard time."
So I would feel better if someone hadn't tried to play a joke on me earlier that triggered me big time and now I can't get the scared little-girl feeling to go away. :(
sunnydays
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