Posted by JoniS on July 29, 2007, at 23:32:27
I have been debating with myself for a couple of days. I miss him very much. I saw him abut 2 weeks ago and I will see him next on Fri. He had to go out of town to his parent's home and as things turned out, he had to stay longer than expected and (I think) had to coordinate with his sister to relocate his parents to an assisted living place. He called me last Mon to change our appointment and he told me a little bit about what was going on and was pretty honest about how upset he was over having to move them from their family home and all.
Well, I have mostly thought about him and wondered how he is and feeling sorry about the difficult time he is dealing with. I tell myself to be strong, be thoughtful of him and stay out of his personal life, even if it is just to say "hope you're doing better and things are settling down a bit for you..." or somehting like that. As I overanalyze, I think, "Joni, you just want to interject yourself into his personal life by forcing him to think about you for a minute, to stop and read your email. You need to be strong, hold on to yourself and wait til Fri..."
My T said last week (by email) that I could email him anytime. I always want to, but I usually don't feel much better cause his responses are usually only a couple of sentences. Tonight I was wishing I could carry on a conversation with him (by email or BB)
I just had a meltdown about an hour ago talking to my husband. So now of course, my motive is not only to see how T is doing, but because I am very very sad and missing him.
So, someone tell me what you think. Should I email him, or should I give him space and not interrupt while he is in the middle of his family crisis stuff?
I guess as soon as I finished typing the sentence, I felt like I know the answer. I'm being selfish and I need to self soothe, leave him alone.
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