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Posted by JoniS on July 29, 2007, at 23:32:27
I have been debating with myself for a couple of days. I miss him very much. I saw him abut 2 weeks ago and I will see him next on Fri. He had to go out of town to his parent's home and as things turned out, he had to stay longer than expected and (I think) had to coordinate with his sister to relocate his parents to an assisted living place. He called me last Mon to change our appointment and he told me a little bit about what was going on and was pretty honest about how upset he was over having to move them from their family home and all.
Well, I have mostly thought about him and wondered how he is and feeling sorry about the difficult time he is dealing with. I tell myself to be strong, be thoughtful of him and stay out of his personal life, even if it is just to say "hope you're doing better and things are settling down a bit for you..." or somehting like that. As I overanalyze, I think, "Joni, you just want to interject yourself into his personal life by forcing him to think about you for a minute, to stop and read your email. You need to be strong, hold on to yourself and wait til Fri..."
My T said last week (by email) that I could email him anytime. I always want to, but I usually don't feel much better cause his responses are usually only a couple of sentences. Tonight I was wishing I could carry on a conversation with him (by email or BB)
I just had a meltdown about an hour ago talking to my husband. So now of course, my motive is not only to see how T is doing, but because I am very very sad and missing him.
So, someone tell me what you think. Should I email him, or should I give him space and not interrupt while he is in the middle of his family crisis stuff?
I guess as soon as I finished typing the sentence, I felt like I know the answer. I'm being selfish and I need to self soothe, leave him alone.
Posted by JoniS on July 29, 2007, at 23:44:30
In reply to Should I email my T?, posted by JoniS on July 29, 2007, at 23:32:27
Wow. I check my mail after I posted and I had a quick email from him. It was just how am I, call if I need to, and 2 sentences about what is happening with him. What a nice surprise.
Obviously my problems seem small compared to what he is going through right now.
Posted by DAisym on July 30, 2007, at 0:19:36
In reply to He emailed me!, posted by JoniS on July 29, 2007, at 23:44:30
So, when you received his email, did you feel like he was interjecting himself into your "real" life? Or did you feel cared about and held in someone's mind? I think it was very sweet that he reached out to you, just to "touch" for a moment and remind you he is there and thinking of you.
I think we do tend to overanalyze all of our impulses with our therapist, and perhaps they do it to. The relationship *is* loaded, but sometimes the human thing...the nice thing...is to just say, "I'm sorry this is happening and I hope it gets better soon."
Who wouldn't appreciate hearing that? And how nice that you truly wish that for him, in the midsts of all your other feelings. I think it would be perfectly OK to email him and say so.
Therapy is so very complicated. But I hope it never gets so complicated that we can't feel empathy and/or sympathy for our therapists when life throws them a curve.
Posted by muffled on July 30, 2007, at 14:10:53
In reply to Re: He emailed me! » JoniS, posted by DAisym on July 30, 2007, at 0:19:36
Posted by Dinah on July 31, 2007, at 1:21:13
In reply to He emailed me!, posted by JoniS on July 29, 2007, at 23:44:30
That's great! Not only did he save you from having to make a hard decision, but he let you know he thinks of you even if you don't contact him. :)
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