Posted by DAisym on July 27, 2007, at 20:29:31
In reply to Re: What to do---long » Honore, posted by gardenergirl on July 27, 2007, at 12:46:27
GG,
I've been sitting with this for a little while, wondering how I would feel and what I would do. I think the confusion you've expressed is most probable. But I hear in your posts a quiet conviction that you are ready to let go and try to fly on your own. I'm sure this has been shaken by your therapist's forgetting. The message I'd hear if I were you is "you aren't ready" but without more discussion, I'm not sure you should assume that is true. If you really aren't, then great - you can continue. But if you are, maybe you set a new date, a few weeks longer and go ahead with it.
I just finished a book called "Taming Solitude" and the chapter on regression during the termination process and the pain of separation really made me think of you. I know you know all this stuff... It feels like the primary question I would be asking is "aren't I important to you at all, that you would forget this huge thing?" I don't think you can terminate with confidence if the relationship feels so up-ended. This has the potential to undo so much of the progress made in the therapy, based on the "real" relationship between the two of you. I think no matter how much he might want to move away from what is happening in the room, it must be talked about. Sure you can gain perspective on this glitch and you can see it as only one bump in an otherwise great journey -- but I'm afraid it will resonate so loudly if left undiscussed and will taint how you feel overall about things.
I'm sorry you have to wait so long to see him again. In this situation, it truly stinks.
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