Posted by Dinah on July 12, 2007, at 11:19:52
In reply to Tormented my Pdoc might terminate me (long **csa), posted by antigua3 on July 12, 2007, at 9:52:44
I think Maria is right. You need to talk to him about it. So many things might be happening. He *might* be angry about your cancellation, or he might be reacting to what you told him. But it's also possible that something else entirely is going on, and because of your past experience you are understandably associating it with your revelation.
Is this a new office setup? It might have brought changes in his way of practicing that are distressing to him, and that might be what you're reacting to.
During my therapist's time away from the city, he arranged to share office space with an existing practice. This practice had a receptionist who set up appointments. My therapist happily sent me to her to set up my appointment. I was a bit upset, and reminded him that in our entire time together, even when he worked with an agency who collected the fees, he personally set up future appointments.
He waxes eloquent about how happy he was to have someone to take care of the administrative details. And I told him that setting up the appointments had always had more than merely administrative meaning to me. It was an assurance that I would see him again, it was part of the caring. He brushed it off a bit with more words of how convenient it was, and how he'd always wanted something like that, and how it didn't mean he didn't care. But afterwards, while the receptionist always recorded the appointment, he actually discussed a convenient time with me, then walked me to the desk and asked her to set up that time for me.
It was a rare display of sensitivity. :)
So I think discussing it as calmly and nonaccusingly as you can might be the best approach. If you start by telling him why you might be feeling that way based on past experience, maybe he won't be defensive.
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