Posted by Honore on June 25, 2007, at 22:56:03
In reply to I went, posted by wishingstar on June 25, 2007, at 14:12:35
Hi, WS. I do recognize that the bad feelings might, which might at one point have been fixable, have taken much stronger hold by now-- and that it's often not feasible, to turn back the clock.
It's not someone one person can do-- it's got to be both people, somehow striking the right note, and sustaining it-- remaking the old connection. Even if you're doing part of it-- by seeing the negative, or protecting yourself with a wall-- you can't turn it around alone. Ginny has to cooperate. It would be great if she could get the ball rolling, as they say-- but I keep remembering that the two of you had something pretty good for while. At the least, I wish she could find where you are emotionally.
She really didn't handle the change in frequency well-- maybe you were also quick to close off, I don't know-- but that's so understandable.
So, it might not be fixable-- but then, sometimes, things suddenly become more fixable than one ever thought. I wish that could happen for you with Ginny, but I understand completely that you wouldn't be optimistic. For so many reasons, that would be really hard now.
I'm sorry you and she can't seem to find the old connection, though, WS.
Honore
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