Posted by sunnydays on June 17, 2007, at 19:53:43
In reply to Re: what is the point of therapy? » Dory, posted by DAisym on June 17, 2007, at 17:27:15
Daisy brings up a good point. It might be easier for your T to know how to respond if you could ask him, "Do you care about me?" rather than saying, "I need you to show you care about me." A question provides a lot more opportunity to give reassuring words (although therapists like to answer questions with questions sometimes, so be prepared for that) than stating a need. Once I got up the nerve to ask my T questions like, "Is it ok to miss you so much?" "Are you going to leave?" "Are you getting sick of me?" I got much more reassurance from him, even when I wasn't asking the questions. It may be a difference of tone because it's something he can respond to if it's a question, not just a statement (although it's great that you know what you need enough to be able to state it).
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