Posted by LlurpsieNoodle on June 14, 2007, at 14:19:19
In reply to Re: can we just pretend no trauma? » LlurpsieNoodle, posted by Honore on June 14, 2007, at 9:56:50
> I'm glad you told him, but you don't have to go there every time. Maybe it's a lot better to have days when you forget, when you have good times, and feel close in a warmer, more accepted way.
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> Why not? trauma isn't everything. it isn't even pretending no trauma-- it's enjoy the parts of you, which are many, that aren't defined, or limited, or touched by the trauma.
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> He should understand that-- I hope-- and let you be carefree-- gives space to parts of you to grow that aren't in trauma, & new things to flourish.
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> HonoreYeah, you're right. One of the reasons I like this T is because he seemed to talk about my whole person rather than talk about other people with my condition. (whatever THAT is)
I don't reduce everything to trauma, and I'd hate for a T to do that with me. He seemed to bring up a number of things about me that were not related to any mental disorder, and picked up on a couple of my strengths (and wasn't afraid to tell them to my disbelieving face).
I don't want a T who will always just go back to the sore spot and pick at it. I also don't want a T that will flatter me when I look like I'm struggling to believe in myself. I want a T with a good memory. I want a T that will not flinch when I do something unexpected. (my current T told me that there were a few major things I did that caught her completely off guard, but at the time I did it, she seemed completely nonplussed. what an actress)
I guess part of me just wants to get on with where I left off, but I can't really do that with a new therapist, can I? When I finally move to e. coast, I will have to catch the quieT up to speed. and a big part of that will be to talk about my big symptoms? or maybe that can wait? I don't know how this works.
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