Posted by Happyflower on May 25, 2007, at 17:19:39
In reply to Re: Does you T do stuff that messes with your head?, posted by DAisym on May 25, 2007, at 16:27:34
<<<<If I may...perhaps "practice" might mean this is a safe relationship because you have such a strong bond and because the social expectations are so different -- not that it is fake, like a "practice test."
Hi Daisy,
It is so nice of you to respond to my post. :-)
You know he did say practice relationship, but now that you reminded me, he did say it was a "safe" relationship too, where I can try things out with him with being safe at the same time.More like practicing walking for a baby - the baby can't fake walk - but his/her steps are unsteady and they need something to grab on to when they feel they are falling. And we don't start babies out walking on a high wire, or across a busy street. We let them practice in a safe place -- like therapy.
Wow, I really like this analogy about therapy, and it makes me feel better about what he said. Thank you.
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> > I'm sorry you had a hard session. I too would have been mortified if my therapist ever played a message I left for him. But the good part is that he cares about what you think and he wants you to trust him.You know I kinda laugh about this, but it is almost like he was a father trying to teach me a lesson the hard way, but a gentle way. LOL Now I don't see him as a father figure, but knowing what it is like to be a mother when you have to disapline your kids, and it hurts you sometimes have to do it, it seemed like he was really stuggling a little to play the message
for me, almost like it was difficult to "disipline" me.He likes to be a "nice guy" and he had to be not so nice even if it was for my own good. So it makes me laugh because It make me wonder how he is like as a father because he told me he was indulgent
father. ( i bet his daugher gets away with everything, lol)But the weird thing is that I saw how vunerable hewas to do this, he was kinda worried about my reaction I think, because it could really backfire. But he trusted me enough to try it. But it was a sweet tender moment. When I said I was sorry, he seems really happy I apologized and he so sweetly accepted it . awwwwww!
Therapy can be so hard!
It is so hard, but maybe the harder it is the more of a bond I feel with him. and I didnt' think it could get stronger but it did. Thank you Daisy, it means a lot to me you would write to me. Thanks.
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