Posted by Dinah on May 21, 2007, at 12:43:06
In reply to quitting stories? (poss. trigger?), posted by raisinb on May 21, 2007, at 11:49:23
I must have quit at least half a dozen times. The whole deal. Him asking me to come back for one last session even if I didn't pay for it, my crossing my arms and holding fast, and walking away.
He always was very nice about it. He never said anything that he would later regret. He accepted my coming back without undue comment, in a matter of fact way. He says I taught him all he knows about termination.
I imagine the reasons I quit were some real or perceived problem in our relationship. And mind you, our relationship really was pretty bad at that point. The reason I came back was that for some reason I was attached, even in that bad period.
The only really negative side effect was that it took him at least a year longer to trust me than it took me to trust him. I later learned that it really bothered him under his unflappable exterior. He was braced for me to continue doing that.
Not all therapists respond as mine did. My therapist's schedule isn't the sort where each client has a time, and he has never appeared to be in a position where he can't squeeze me in if I need it. So losing my time was never really an issue.
But... While I think I needed to do that at that point in my therapy, in the long run I've learned that with a therapist who is willing to work on things, it's probably better to hash out problems.
If you think solid thinking would lead you back, is there any way to just take a break to do that thinking? Or do the thinking with her?
poster:Dinah
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