Posted by Daisym on May 5, 2007, at 23:58:17
In reply to Re: revenge fantasies, posted by crushedout on May 5, 2007, at 21:09:00
I'm doing some of this around my dad -- spinning revenge fantasies that would curl your hair. Scares me to death that I have the capacity to even think of these things. But my therapist keeps saying the fantasy part is OK...it is OK to want to hurt someone back who hurt you.
One of the worst things about being a therapy client is that we have to worry about whether anyone will believe our side of any story. After all, we are "mental health" patients. Gasp. It is in Pfinstegg's post above (it was important that the new therapist believed her) and it is here too, Sunny is worrying about how people will perceive you. Stinks, I think.
And I'm certainly not going to talk to you about forgiveness. I can't even begin to entertain the idea, so I wouldn't ask you too. Just protect yourself, OK? Make sure she doesn't get to hurt you anymore, ever.
I have this picture of her frowning over her computer wondering, "who is this? Why is this person so angry with me?" I'm sure you've made her worry and wonder, Crushed, no matter what her blog says. Take comfort in that.
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