Posted by JoniS on April 28, 2007, at 22:06:49
In reply to Re: I figured out some stuff......, posted by LadyBug on April 27, 2007, at 11:52:04
LadyBug,
Your post caught my eye. I haven't been on babble for a few days, but I wanted to tell you that - YES I have been working on this very issue. I always beleive my T is better and I put him up on a pedestal. I also did it with a different T about 15 years ago. And of course, I put him way up there, and me way down here, and so I am nothing. He asked me what would have to happen for us to be on the same level. (dont remember the exact words) I said I guess you would have to come down a little and I would have to come up a little. I don't think my T tries to come across as having this perfect life, but he did used to keep a lot of his personal life out of the therapy hour. It seems like he has opened up a little more and also I am gettin a little stronger so we are coming a little closer to the same level.
I read a couple of Carl Rogers books and found them comforting because he talks a lot about his life and how the patients always thought the T's had this wonderful life and had it all together, when they were just like the patients/clients. It helped to know that often in the therapy prosess this happens. I guess one of the causes is the style of therapy too. I really envy my T for going through the process of becoming a Psychologist because I think that also helps tremendously to get to know yourself and sort of "grow up" emotionally.
Sorry this is such a long post. One more thing, I know that my issue underlying all this is very low self esteem. I read books about it, but mostly they just remind me what I already know, it's real living that will have to get me healed. But I just finished a good one you might want to read. It is "Stronger than you think" - "becoming whole without having to be perfect" it is by a Christian Psychologist and I highly recommend it, if you don't mind reading from a Christian author. I don't mean to say anything offensive, I know that faith is a very personal thing, so please dont take offense. The book is much more psychology than Christianity.
I'm glad you had a good session, and I wish you well with this. Let me know every now and then how it's going.
Take Care,
Joni
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