Posted by gazo on April 23, 2007, at 10:33:09
In reply to Re: Bringing spouse to my therapist » gazo, posted by canadagirl on April 22, 2007, at 20:50:39
well i will tell you that my only experience with a couple's T really did turn into a support group for my husband. i hate to say that because i don't want to prevent you from trying to help your relationship. Not every T is going to be the way the b with an itch was.
she got very interested in my husband's mental health issues and everything became about that. It was devastating for me. In the end she said "well, what did you think? that i could wave a magic wand?"
personally i wouldn't start couple's therapy with a T you are already with.. for the reasons you stated. But i can understand your reluctance to start anew. i just think it's the only way to have a level playing field.
i don't think most T's would allow partners to just complain about the other in therapy though. It would be redirected into "make I statements." Or at least it should be.
i'm going to ask another hard question that you don't need to answer... are you afraid that couple's therapy would end up helping you end the relationship rather than repair it?
oh and hey, if you're ever coming east, let me know... love to hang with you.
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