Posted by pegasus on April 22, 2007, at 22:22:09
In reply to quick summary, posted by pegasus on April 21, 2007, at 22:07:25
Thanks you guys for being so supportive and encouraging. This *is* hard, but really good, I think. I'm so glad I asked for these sessions.
Today I've been practicing asking him about what was unique in our relationship that was valuable. These are the things that come up when I go there:
- It's not ok to ask for that kind of info. It's like fishing for compliments, which is really bad.
- It's not safe to ask it. It's too vulnerable. Easy to end up being laughed at, or ridiculed.
- It's humiliating to ask this thing that everyone wants to ask: Am I special? Tell me how?
- I feel really young when I ask.
- I really don't know what he will answer. And I really want to know. It feels very important.That's where I am with it so far. This feels like big work.
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