Posted by pegasus on April 17, 2007, at 8:53:26
In reply to Re: Lovely card from my T » pegasus, posted by Daisym on April 16, 2007, at 20:56:21
Hi Daisy,
Hmm. No, I didn't hesitate for that reason. Really, did people not like the idea of a T checking in? I mean, I understand the notion of learning to ask for what you need (was that it?). But IMHO an occasional thoughtful gesture is going to do more good than harm.
I suppose it might be problematic if a pattern developed of me acting distraught to manipulate her into checking in. But I think most Ts should have the skills to identify when that's going on, and bring it into the sessions instead. Or was it some other concern?
The beautiful thing about this card, also, was that it wasn't really a check in. I wasn't distraught, just a little down. I wasn't upset about her absence. That's one benefit of not being especially attached. I was actually thinking that it would be good to save the money this month (although I've now blown it on two sessions with my ex-T).
Yes, I'm going to treasure that card for a long time. And thanks for reminding me that I can and do appreciate and love her, even as I feel more attached to my exT. She tells me that she feels like an adoptive parent with me, which is exactly how I feel with her. She's really a gem. :)
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