Posted by Jeff Smith on April 7, 2007, at 7:45:16
In reply to Difficult T this week, posted by jammerlich on April 6, 2007, at 17:57:52
> Thanks for asking about me.
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> Hard T yesterday with my own stuff, then she brought up something at the end that completely freaked me out about "us." Then, on the phone later, told her that things have been different seeing her this second time around....and not in a good way. That it seems too impersonal and that I know part of it is me because I'm afraid of her; but, that I've also been wondering if part of it is her. Also said that I know sometimes T's work with patients they don't really like and I'd really prefer she just tell me if that is the case for her.
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> There's lots more I wanted to say but I got all nervous and tongue tied. I'm supposed to write it out and have it with me next week. I might put some of it here, but I'm not sure anyone would find it too interesting. Needless to say, I'm not really looking forward to my next appointment.
Well... I hate to sound too nosey since we don't know each other and I don't know anything about your relationship w/ your T, but this is honestly all fascinating for me and I too would love to hear your thoughts (and also her answer to your request that she tell you if she likes you/working w/ you).
I know exactly how that would feel... it would be impossible for me to see a shrink who I thought was happy with me (or worse yet just didnt like me).And this whole business about your T bringing up something that you weren't even talking about (and also requesting you write things out for next time) is also fascinating to me: You mean she actually pays enough attention to you to be able to independently come to her own conclusion on something about you/ your relationship with her, and then bring it up on her own? : )
Sort of a silly question, but honestly I would be thrilled to have a T know and understand me enough to give feedback like that (of course only provided that she was correct about what she said/Say's and was making sense).
Obviously I have no clue if she's good for you or not, but I'm impressed by her at least paying attention when you could instead be dealing with the "talking to a brick wall syndrome".Good luck with her... and do spill those beans here! ; )
Really though, I find learning about the way people think and behave, etc, in all situations fascinating and I'm sure lots of people would be interested in your thoughts and experiences.That's a reason this is a great place... since where else can you go and talk about and analyze the minutia (or "non minutia") of everything one's thinking/feeling without having most people think you're (*insert "crazy" and/or various other unpleasant thoughts/judgements here*)... not to at all imply you are any of those things but Im sure you know what I mean(?).
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