Posted by Dinah on April 2, 2007, at 11:12:43
In reply to Re: Am I only 1 who think S.injury not so bad?*tri » Dinah, posted by Iwillsurvive on April 1, 2007, at 18:16:15
> I HATE to ever think I ever hurt others. HATE it. I find it weird to consider others actually truly care for me. Its a strange concept.....
I hope that's something you can learn and internalize, because other people certainly do truly care for you. And I know you don't want to hurt others. I know for me it's acceptable to hurt myself in ways I would never dream of hurting others.
> **Yeah. Sorry you do it too. What do you think you achieve from it yourself? What are your motivations for doing it? Does it work?
Usually I do it when I'm suffering an extreme of emotion. When I'm so angry I fear I'll bust. Or when I'm way overstimulated and it feels like my whole body is one big electrical field and that SI interrupts the circuit, or something like that.
It does work. :(
You know, when I read what I wrote about four year olds, I started thinking. Very young children do self injure, and so do the developmentally delayed. I don't know about animal behavior in general, but dogs when stressed will lick or gnaw themselves until they hurt themselves and keep doing it.
Maybe it's some sort of very primitive defense mechanism that isn't weird or unnatural, but that we put aside as we learn better ways of coping. Then when stress overwhelms our ability to cope, we take out that primitive tool.
While I certainly don't think it's the worst thing I've ever done to myself (especially since I'm very careful and circumspect), it's not the best either. So I try not to do it at all if I can, and if I can't refrain, I am very very very careful.
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