Posted by Iwillsurvive on April 1, 2007, at 18:16:15
In reply to Re: Am I only 1 who think S.injury not so bad?*tri » Iwillsurvive, posted by Dinah on April 1, 2007, at 10:26:00
> I argue that viewpoint all the time. That of all my disfunctional coping skills, this one is probably the least harmful. Spending brings me more long term grief.
**Yup, took me awhile to make my T understand, but she gets it now.
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> But I suppose the idea is to find coping skills that don't harm at all, yet work as well. I wish I could find them. I fall asleep, yet that has consequences as well.**Yeah, other stuff works lotsa the time, but sometimes it spins outta control and I dunno what else to do.....
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> The thing that brought me up cold was when my son did something that would be quite normal for a four year old, but that he should have outgrown by the time he did it. It made me so sad that he felt that bad. I drew him into a hug and told him that I love him so much that I don't want anyone to ever hurt him - not even himself. And I told him I was so sorry he felt so bad. And I asked him if there weren't things he and I could figure out to do instead.**You such a good mommy Dinah. It sure hurts to see our kids hurt :(
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> I realized that I'd never want him to know I self injured, and it gave me an insight into how people who care about me must feel.**Yeah, I went thru that same scenario w/my T. Its one of the most deep discussions we ever had. We both got kids so we were discussing it both ways. We have differing opinions, but we agreed that each of our perspectives were personal and had merit.
I HATE to ever think I ever hurt others. HATE it. I find it weird to consider others actually truly care for me. Its a strange concept.....
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> I can't say I never do it, but it made me understand a bit better.**Yeah. Sorry you do it too. What do you think you achieve from it yourself? What are your motivations for doing it? Does it work?
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