Posted by michellemybell on April 1, 2007, at 21:18:08
In reply to I overreact - do you?, posted by DisTraught on March 26, 2007, at 5:57:59
I think many people might say "he is a jerk, why is she wasting her time thinking about him, rumminating, etc." But it's different when you are the person involved. I know I would analyze that (ur experience with ur t) to pieces, but I analyze what my therapist says all the time also(but luckily I finally found one who I have a good relationship with!) What he said was hurtful and inconsiderate, and it's understandable to feel how you do. It's not completley odd, considering that I have felt that way, as have many other. but there are people who can cope with that better, or who can find another therapist (which is hard to do if you attach to someone emotionally-no matter how much of a jerk they are). If you want to hear my stories of "over reacting" I have many so that you know ur not alone. I am so much better now (from 2 years ago), and attribute a lot of this to the work i did with a great therapist who i had for year (we terminated because it was the end of his internship--and it was the first "good" goodbye i ever had with a therapist), as well as with the one I have now. My old one referred me to this one, and they both have similar therapeutic styles (which makes a huge difference i think). Considering that you are sensitive to what your therapist says about and thinks of you, it may be a great opportunity to try and find a therapist who is interested in "object relations", transference" as oppossed to cbt, or specific goal oriented therapy that is limited to few sessions. In-fact, if your interested-I can probably get referral info for you. I guess I just remember how horrible I used to feel with a certain therapist, and how i thought my feelings/ thoughts were wierd/bad/unreasonable/unsubstantiated. And now I know that that was BS, and that my therapist was very limited in many ways (didnt reflect on what I say about her, or her own thoughts; was critical and insensitive; had her own issues that she wasnt so aware of). Im so glad im away from that place, and even if i do dabble in over analyzing some interaction, my therapist is interested and explore it with me, and works through it with me, and then its not so bad--and its better progressively. Let me (us) know how things are, and let me know if u want refferals or anything too. Take care!
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