Posted by gazo on March 26, 2007, at 9:00:40
In reply to I overreact - do you?, posted by DisTraught on March 26, 2007, at 5:57:59
(((((Penny)))))
That is awful. I'd be really upset too. :( I am so sorry that happened.
But don't blame yourself for this... this T sounds like he is very disorganized and obviously not tuning in to how you might feel. He also seems very unaware of something *very* important:
the therapist-client relationship is a very special one. It isn't a friendship and it isn't like a doctor-patient thing either. It is complicated and it puts the client in a position of trust or attempted trust of the therapist. You are holding out your feelings, no matter how little you say, by even going to therapy. It is meant to do that. By being so uninformed, disorganized and uncaring he is essentially rejecting you when you are vulnerable. It's completely unacceptable IMO.
It sure would be nice if it didn't hurt, or if you could just let it roll off you.. but I completely understand why it didn't go that way. It's just not your fault or some defect of who you are. To me this shows you had really wanted help and you have feelings like everyone else. I think your reaction is perfectly appropriate given the dynamic.
If it were me, and it isn't, I would call the insurance co, or your company person who handles that. Find out. Ask for a copy of your policy so you have it in print. Then I would see a different T if possible. *IF* I was able to work up the courage I would write a letter to the first T very calmly explaining how his disregard made you feel. Maybe a new T could help with that.
I am so very sorry. You must be so hurt.
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