Posted by Honore on March 26, 2007, at 14:25:38
In reply to Re: Dinah » DisTraught, posted by Dinah on March 26, 2007, at 12:06:59
It's really easy to forget that therapists are just human beings. Some are nice; some are sensitive; some are just plain boorish and crude. (Hope that's not uncivil; I'm sure it's not that common, but it does exist.)
I've run into them, and gotten terribly upset, and self-critical and self-doubting, and gone into waves of sort of defensive self-justification, which involved tons of self-undermining "but it wasn't my fault..... because..." es.
I just think when you go to someone for help, and are feeling very vulnerable, and afraid of something bad that;s happening to and in you-- and lost and confused-- and the human being in the room with you makes a clumsy or tactless or down-right mean mistake-- you're going to be devastated.
It's awful. It's really a bad bad and sad thing. But that guy was just some guy-- and he had gone to grad school in psych, and had a practice-- but in the end, he was just some guy groping to find something to say-- and he found the wrong thing-- for whatever reason-- technique, desperation, bad spiritedness, miscalculation.
It wasn't really probably that he was such an awful person, as that he was a rather lost confused person himself, and didn't know what to do. Some Ts are lost, confused people; some are very wise and have a deep sense of life. It runs the gamut, unfortunately-- and there's a lot of the groping to get through sometimes.
But as a patient, it's so hard to remember-- or believe that. But I wish that you could believe this truth, because maybe you can recover from the pain of the moment more quickly and with less self-damaging self-blame.
Honore
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