Posted by raisinb on March 20, 2007, at 12:08:25
In reply to Re: ginny » Iwillsurvive, posted by wishingstar on March 19, 2007, at 16:56:00
Hi WS--
I don't post very much, but I read these sometimes, and I have read the history of your time with Ginny and generated some strong opinions on this situation over the past few weeks. I really hope they don't make you feel worse ;(I think the things Ginny has done are BS, to put it bluntly. First of all, she should NEVER give you something you need (and promise it, really) (seeing you twice a week), then yank it away. That's an irresponsible violation of trust.
Some therapists do not do email because of confidentiality issues, but it doesn't sound like that's the case here. It sounds like she wants you to open up, and you tried with your written communications, then she refused them because they weren't in a form she liked. Her decisions seem arbitrary to me.
Third, I think it's highly irresponsible to suggest that you shouldn't be in therapy right now. If she can't work well with you (due to mismatching styles, whatever), that's one thing, and it's her job to tell you so. But to tell you that you're therapy-inappropriate? Uh uh. Therapy's the one place where no matter what your issues--whether you're enraged, schizophrenic, whatever--you deserve help and compassion. You are the client--that means it's your job to play out all your crap in therapy. It's her job to help you with it or refer you elsewhere, but not to say that you can't benefit from therapy. It's HER failing here, not yours. If you had no trust issues, you wouldn't need therapy. You have the right to be silent--or say whatever--in a session and not be rejected for it. She might try to push you, but she shouldn't push you OUT.
IMHO, I think you deserve a good therapist and Ginny isn't it, so you might think about starting the search again, as hard as that might be and as crappy as it sounds.
*deep breath*. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time :(
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