Posted by littleone on March 8, 2007, at 19:49:48
In reply to Re: Denial, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 7, 2007, at 22:50:29
>**I have gotten to know some of my parts. I am very proud of how well some of my parts have done. We can get along SO much better. It is SO much better to not deny.
I can definitely see changes in you. I know you still have rough patches, but they seem to pass a bit more smoothly and quicker than they used to. And I can see that your parts are kind of looking out for each other now. It’s no longer every man for himself. I get a sense that you’re a bit more centred now. Not sure how to explain that clearer. And you’re very insightful.
You have taken big steps forward. Your parts are doing good work.
And yes, it really is so much better when we stop denying. But it is such a powerful defense against threats. I’m sure I’ll be holding up that shield of denial again. It would be nice to draw a shield broken in two and discarded on the ground. And then to stand beside it courageous and tall. I no longer need you Denial!
>**I too get confused by parts. Sometimes I have writings and I think it was one part, but it doesn't SEEM really quite like that parts words....so mebbe its a diff one? And then I get to thinking, mebbe the part I thot was a diff part, is just an existing part having an outburst or something....
Yes! I knew I had a 10 year old part, but there have been various things written/said that seem to indicate that maybe there is more than one of them. Perhaps like there’s been a good/bad split there. And I think the shame from that time has been split off into another part perhaps. But they’re all so closely interconnected that it is difficult to separate them out to learn about them.
But don’t hold me to those theories. It’s such a steep learning curve, I’ll probably think something different next week.
>**My T didn'y know bout parts, she got no experience of parts, but it turned out for the best cuz she said things like the I word, and like how they were just a part of me, not theirownselves, etc, etc. And I think she was not entirely comfortable bout them. But that made me defend them. Astonishingly strongly. And I think its helped my parts work together better somehow.
Are you sure that she felt uncomfortable about them? Perhaps she was just explaining her ideas on the subject. Doesn’t mean she was uncomfortable about them. Were you uncomfortable and maybe projecting that on to her?
I’m not saying that’s what happened. Just putting the question out there. You certainly seem to be open about having parts and it doesn’t seem like she’s been trying to turn them off/shut them away/deny them/etc. She seems to be accepting of them.
Regardless of that, I am very glad they stood together so strongly and they feel more united in where they are heading.
>**When things go smoothly I wouldn't really most of the time even KNOW I got parts. Its always so much worse when I under stress, then look out.
>Then too if I repress too much and some don't get what they need, then there is conflict, and that is hard.Yeah.
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