Posted by littleone on February 21, 2007, at 23:27:02
In reply to Ack! I HATE psychology, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on February 21, 2007, at 22:40:58
Yes, transference is a very barf-o-la blech word. And I always feel mad at myself/the world when I realise I'm stuck in transference rather than having a perfectly reasonable reaction to *just* the current situation.
So I never try to think of it as transference. I try to see it as an opportunity. An opportunity to identify a pattern in my life. An opportunity to find a reason why I find some things hard/painful/hurtful/infuriating/etc.
Learning to see your patterns and understand them can help your head a bit. I find my emotions still find the situation real hard. I guess it would stay hard emotionally until you've managed to change the pattern.
Stick with it Llurpsie. You'll get there. I know you've struggled a lot lately. Sorry I've been in hiding and haven't replied to you.
Please do take care of yourself. This includes basic things like improving your sleep and eating okay. As well as building up safety. And doing good things for yourself, being gentle with yourself.
I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "diss". Are you saying you're dissociating a lot, or are you using that as shorthand for something else (eg dissertion or something?).
Be gentle and take things slowly. You're doing some good work here Llurpsie.
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