Posted by Honore on February 12, 2007, at 9:59:41
In reply to Re: ANOTHER 'T' dream - - - what gives?, posted by annierose on February 11, 2007, at 19:31:58
AHaving so many dreams directly about your T (as distinct from dreams about her, in disguised form) seems meaningful, in itself.--
Maybe you're moving into a new phase-- or a phase of clearer or more direct recognition of things.
It's amazing that you had these dreams. Then you had a session where you and your T seemed not to be communicating. She was asking seemingly "random" questions, and bringing up topics that you hadn't-- such as one that was seemingly critical of how you were raising your children.
Maybe that's part of, or somehow connected to, what she's trying to tell you that you don't hear. Maybe she isn't being critical so much as trying to warn you about some danger to you--- either in how you were raised (?) or how you're raising your children (?)? Or?? something else??
I'm not sure what it means, but the first two dreams show this estrangement, or disconnection-- and then this third one shows a sense of intense need for a connection, that she hasn't overtly shown you.
The "stalker patient" seems important, too, because she could be a real life version of this "negative" you-- the needy, helpless you who wants your T;s love and comfort, and who you fear (or imagine) might intrude on or push herself onto your T (or you, since it sounds as if she's stalking you as well as your T). Could you be scared of being like her?
The cancer could stand for all sorts of things, but it is scary, and maybe it reveals how scared you are about getting better, or whether you can; and how much you do need your T. Then this need is crosscut with the thought that you'll never get what you need from her..I was thinking that even if it comes across more as if she isn't hearing you, there's something you might be missing-- and misinterpreting;
I've also learned through experience that Ts hear better if you say you aren't hearing them, when there's a potential mutual non-hearing. It corresponds more to their experience of the not-hearing-- also, they think you're the one who's paying them to help you work on your stuff, so your non-hearing is the non-hearing that's crucial-- at least, as I say, I've found that they tend to believe this pretty strongly. It's at least a place to start to address any non-hearing that's going on.
You're lucky to have dreams that are telling you so much, annierose.
Honore
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