Posted by toetapper on January 24, 2007, at 18:02:53
My husband and I are trying to find someone who can guide us through some CSA/PTSD/SI/ED-related issues that are really starting to affect our marriage, we've had 5 first sessions the last three weeks, here are the results:
#1. 25 min late, no apology or explanation, session ended 20 min later, full fee
#2. "Maybe what you need to do is get in touch with what sexually satisfies you and then simply communicate that to your husband, have you tried that?"
#3. "I'm really hoping to fill my Weds 4pm slot, if both of you are telling me you can only do 9am I have to wonder how committed you are to your marriage."
#4. "What I'm hearing you say is you aren't sure if you ever want to have sex again, if you're that unwilling to change I'm not sure how I can help you."
#5. "I could do a morning appointment but all my other clients are in the afternoon, but I could do a morning appointment it's just that I'd have to sit around for 4 hours until my next appointment, but I could do mornings, sure."
Unbelievably, all 5 of those were referrals!
We need someone who understands enough about CSA/PTSD and how that unfolds in an existing, long-term relationship, but also has some background in couples. Phillipa, I'm right there with you, I don't know who or what to ask...
Like so many others here I am so very close to the end of my rope, ANY ideas, thoughts, suggestions, reality checks, etc. are appreciated.
poster:toetapper
thread:726100
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