Posted by annierose on January 15, 2007, at 13:48:29
In reply to Re: ever feel like never going back even if its good? » annierose, posted by Scentedgarden on January 15, 2007, at 10:04:29
SG -
I responded to your post because I was there long ago. I did quit therapy mid-treatment. I didn't quit to see to see how she would feel - afterall - if you quit, you don't get to see the therapist again and/or know what they are thinking about your quitting. However, I did wonder what she was feeling - - - if it bothered her, sadden her, disappointed her, brought happiness, whatever - - I wondered if she thought about me and what were those thoughts.
Years later when I saw her again I did ask those questions. Hence my first reply. And it resonated as true. Yes, she thought about me and wondered what happened, what overwhelmed me so that I had to leave, but she accepted that decision. She called me once - the first appointment that I missed to see if I was going to come and talk to her about my decision. I didn't. So she accepted where I was at and moved on to her other clients and life.
I hope this answers your question. Of course, every relationship is different. This was my experience. And like I said, I didn't quit because the relationship was too intense. I didn't quit to get a reaction out of her - or to make a point. I quit because I was tired of talking about life and I wanted to start living my life.
From what you told me, I think you should continue to talk things out with your T. Quitting will bring another set of issues to the forefront - you may feel abadoned - even though it was you that terminated the relationship. She isn't going to rescue you.
Good Luck.
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