Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2006, at 9:08:47
In reply to Re: Has anyone read Social Intelligence?, posted by laima on December 7, 2006, at 20:05:12
I think the part that distressed me was the part about social synchronization. How when two people talk they breathe either together or in alternating breaths, how there are microscopic pauses that indicate it's time for the other person to speak, and that eventually the synchrony ends, the people's breathing changes, and this indicates the encounter is coming to a natural close. As well as the mirroring of stance and expression.
I know darn well I am lousy at all those things. It's why I find face to face meeting so excrutiating.
On the other hand, the part about emotion contagion I recognized as something I do a lot. Although it bewilders me that I manage to do that without being at all able to mirror, which is how he says it's done.
I guess I haven't gotten to the part yet where he says it can be learned. I wonder if people are training to teach this and if a teacher will every find his or her way here.
Thanks, Laima, for giving me a glimpse ahead.
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