Posted by happykat on December 8, 2006, at 21:52:20
In reply to happy -- sad.... why so fast?, posted by sunnydays on December 8, 2006, at 21:10:02
hi sunnydays,
> I was so happy for a few hours this evening. Just bubbly and bouncy and happy. Why is the sadness creeping back?
>
I'm sorry that its creeping back. I've been going through alot of that lately too. When I do get a period of happiness and I notice its waning I try to do everything possible to keep myself from sliding. Whether its indulging in lemon loaf and a hot caramel apple cider from Starbucks, or taking a bubble bath, watching a movie, or exercising like a maniac. (Yoga and meditation are also very good.) Try finding something that you love to do that makes you happy deep down and indulge!I know it's hard. Especially the stuff surrounding T's. I'm going on a trip to see my family tomorrow and the first thing I made sure I packed was my T's business card, brochure with her picture on it, and small momento she gave me. I wish she had been my mom instead of the one I have to go see. :(
The only thing that keeps it realistic for me is knowing that there is no way my T could be that perfect all the time. Even she admits that her relationships with her kids are not perfect.
> And I'm missing my T a lot. I wish I could live with him.<<
But what if the reality is that he leaves the cap off the toothpaste, throws his clothes on the floor, snores, is grouchy in the morning, etc..
I think its so easy to put our T's up on a pedestal because we only see them at their best. We get their full undivided attention. Their families probably rarely get that.
What takes the sting out of not having my T for a mother is the notion that I would like her a lot less as a mother because I wouldn't get the attention that I get when she's my T.
I hope you are feeling better! :) Try to hang on and keep the happy feelings with you as long as you can! I know its really hard.
Feel Better (((sunnydays)))
happykat :)
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