Posted by annierose on November 25, 2006, at 17:00:24
In reply to I had decided, posted by Dinah on November 25, 2006, at 10:16:04
I'm just a little confused. If I am reading your post correctly, I remember early last summer you spoke with your husband about quitting work. Since that discussion (that went well) have you brought up your decision again? and want to enact it now? And now your husband is disappointed and wants you to continue to work even though you do not like your job?
I understand the feeling that it may be easier quitting therapy than cutting back. I have quit therapy in my past and believe me, it's only easier saying "I quit" than actually not going week after week after week. It is VERY hard to do -- but I know that feeling well and I have been to that point since but I remember how painful an abrupt termination feels --- TERRIBLE!
Have you ever told your husband what you said here: (that is my therapist talking - a typical question of hers)
>>>But one of the first things I told my therapist in the early weeks of therapy was that I thought my husband loved me, but I didn't think he liked me too much.
He complains about my time spent here, and I've come to recognize that I often feel liked here, and not so much at home. I never have, really. And I like to be where I feel liked.<<<
He may be surprised you feel this way. He may not feel that way at all. My t would say, "Don't you think that could be a worthwhile conversation?" (Now you know why my t was so annoying the past few months).
I don't think you are stuck. You can still quit your job and see your therapist. Remind your husband that he agreed to it a few months ago but you wanted to take your time making the decision, and now you have and this is what you decided and just "DO IT".
I'm sorry you still are sick. My son woke up with the stomach flu @ 3 a.m. last night and kept the entire family awake the rest of the evening. Of course, they got to nap today (all 3 of them) --- guess who works in retail and had to stand on her feet all day??? ... and now go to my sister's 50th birthday party in a cocktail dress feeling like yesterday's leftovers --- sigh.
((((((DINAH)))))))))) we will both get through this next month!! somehow we will!
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