Posted by Jost on November 25, 2006, at 11:02:48
In reply to I had decided, posted by Dinah on November 25, 2006, at 10:16:04
I had the same thought about my SigO the other day.
He really never spends time with me. He always has something else to do. The something else constantly changes-- the only thing that doesn't is that he always prefers it, whatever it is, to me.
His mother came to town for a week. He had been extremely, frantically busy for about a month. Then he was away for 8 days, then, when he came back he had a conference he was running, plus another person (business) to squire around for five days. Then his mother came before that was over.
He's spending several hours a day with his mother. (She's staying about 30 minutes away with cousins who have a more family environment and more room).
He gets up, works (at home, which is nice, but he gets very cross if I interrupt ever), gets dressed, and rushes out to spend a few hours on the town with her-- shopping, lunch at a nice restaurant, general company), then other days working all day, running out to have dinner with her. (I was sick otherwise I would have gone at least one day.)
His cousin's wife --where she's staying--and I have this weird unfriendly relationship. I guess she mostly semi-dislikes me, and I don't particularly like her, but I don't dislike her, and wish it could be just not such a big deal, but it's kind of a deal of some sort to her. It's kind of over whether I can wear shoes in their apartment, at this point anyway. I feel very awkward without my shoes-- but she absolutely refused to have me in their house, even though I offered to buy clogs and only wear them in her house. I don't understand what it's about, but I'm not that comfortable in clogs, although it would be okay. But she said the only compromise she would make was that I could put surgical booties over my shoes. Which would make me feel like a circus clown, so I won't.
well, I'm tired. I have the flu, or a two week really horrible cold, so I have to lie down.
My point is-- I started to think, maybe I'm not much fun. I usually feel somewhat sickly-- weak, fatigued, sort of overwhelmed with it-- and I guess that's not very appealing.
I'd like to be more fun.
I'll probably have more thoughts later about what you said Dinah. Do you work more than you need for your T? could you cut back and still afford it?
Jost
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