Posted by ElaineM on November 21, 2006, at 19:53:53
In reply to Re: what is your contat with former T if any? » ElaineM, posted by shrinking violet on November 21, 2006, at 19:30:07
>>>>>I guess I then findit confusing that I'd never hear from her after she terminated.
So you've emailed her before and she hasn't responded? Did she give you her email address or did you find it out? Cause sometimes filters would just toss and Unknown Mailer into Spam (and that usually empties automatically quite often). But if your messages did get read, she may not know how important it is to you for her to acknowledge what you've written. She may be worried that you would be asking for advice or to be "treated" over the internet, if she "encouraged" you by answering. Could you ever tell her why you write, that it's important you hear back from her, and what it means in terms of your past work with her (and then mention some of the stuff about continuity and the other stuff you mentioned about your relationship with her).
You could even ask her if she'd like to set guidelines. Like, my ex-T said that she would always read everything I sent, but that she couldn't make guartantees about response time, or length. Maybe your T would feel more comfortable if she got to set the regularity of messages etc. (like once a month, or whatever).
I don't know. Trying to brainstorm here :-)
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