Posted by ElaineM on November 21, 2006, at 14:06:58
In reply to what is your contat with former T if any?, posted by shrinking violet on November 21, 2006, at 9:41:55
I'm pretty much like Anneke. I have occassional email contact with my old T. Maybe once a month, just to update, or ask a question, or to have her say something comforting. 80% of the time I'm the one to make contact (which she prefers). But sometimes she will send out a few lines asking how I'm doing. (her messages aren't really long though) I also get to meet with her inperson once (or twice) a year to check-in (she hasn't decided yet). I get to visit her for free in Feb. It's so I can believe in the continuity of relationships. So I can know that we meant something to each other, and that people don't cease to exist for one another just cause they aren't in the same room.
I love her for that. She doesn't get paid to see me then, or correspond with me - so I find it really touching. I'm grateful that she's comfortable with boundaries like that. My old physician from school though is another story. She's very uncomfortable having contact now that our clinical relationship is over. She's answered two emails I sent her though (brutally curt but not rude or anything) She just included a note though in official test summaries she mailed to me, and I really appreciated it. But I can tell what she's not comfortable with so I don't push her boundaries. I usually do always send her a Christmas card though - and she's always seemed okay with that.
EL
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