Posted by Lindenblüte on November 21, 2006, at 10:37:10
In reply to Re: I been journalling tons**grossness trigger*** » TherapyGirl, posted by muffled on November 20, 2006, at 9:51:08
Hi muffled,
I'm sorry that the thoughts of self-hatred are so powerful.Please try to recognize them for what they are- LIES. I don't know how or when they got into your head, but that's what you're working on in therapy. When they come up, try to label them as such-
Lie
Lie
Lie
Distortion
UntruthAnd once you've labelled them, then you can categorize them. Sure they make you "feel", but there is no substance behind them. When you probe deeper into your psyche, you will encounter all kinds of lies about who you "should" be, or what you "should" have done. In the light of day, though (or during therapy, journalling, or introspection) you can shine some light on these thoughts, recognize them for what they are, and do some work to send them on their way
(I love Clearskies suggestions, and I'll add another one. This is the month of Loy Kratong, an important Thai festival . To observe it, you make a little decorative float (or one for each of your inner children), light a candle on top and release it in a river, bay or pool of water. Thai floats are made from banana leaves, flowers and paper, and are absolutely beautiful, yet ephemeral. As you light the candle and release the float, you make a wish. You can watch as long as you wish- it's very calming. Its flame is said to signify longevity, fulfillment of wishes and release from sins. Thankfulness to the provider of water, and for the bounty of the harvest)
I have a few pretty floating candles that I'm going to put in the river.
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Keep working through it, swim with the current of your feelings, when you feel strong enough.
-Li
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