Posted by Dinah on November 9, 2006, at 13:42:45
In reply to Re: Stupid about vacations » Dinah, posted by toojane on November 9, 2006, at 10:34:26
Precisely!
It's not that I want to stop him from going, or that I don't understand that he has needs that may conflict with mine, but are equally valid.
I just don't want him to cover it up by saying it's ok for me, or worse yet helpful to me. As long as he says, yes, I know I'm hurting you, and yes, I know this isn't the best thing for you, I'm relatively ok. Sad, but not nearly as mad.
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