Posted by Daisym on November 8, 2006, at 19:59:29
In reply to Re: The Relationship » toojane, posted by sunnydays on November 8, 2006, at 17:43:29
Thank you for the compliment. I don't feel brave at all in therapy though. My friends (so many here) know how often I want to run from therapy, how hard they have pushed me to "just tell him" and how darn needy I get.
But I think the major point of your post is well taken. If the client can't be open and honest it makes it hard for the therapist to truly understand what that person needs. But let's not forget that being open and honest means so many different things to different people. And the other major, MAJOR thing to not forget, is that I am absolutely blessed to be able to see my therapist 4 days a week. I don't know how anyone opens themselves up to all the hurt and pain and longings if they have to wait a week or two weeks between sessions. Folks who can do that are way braver than I am. I fall apart and get to go right back in and say, "I'm falling apart." If I'm upset with him, we put in right in 3 or 4 sessions, which is a week -- not a month.
But all that said - my therapist is a long-term, trauma specialist with years and years of experience. He knows how to ask the right questions, he calls if he thinks I might be having a hard time and he reaches out to me, he doesn't just wait for me to reach out and then react. I've certainly been mad at him for stuff and I wish he were different in some ways. But he is special, it isn't just me, or even mostly me.
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