Posted by toojane on November 8, 2006, at 15:49:18
I've been reading the board for awhile now and I've noticed all the people searching for therapists and all their various misadventures and heartbreaks with duds and it makes me think of people searching for a marriage partner almost.
Then I was thinking about Daisy and how everyone seems to covet her therapist and I was wondering if all his patients think about him the way she does, if he is this amazing perfect therapist for everyone or if he is that way for Daisy only and I noticed something else. If you read all of Daisy's posts about her therapy, her bravery is what stands out; her willingness to be open and vulnerable with her therapist despite the fear and pain.
Do you think that could be an essential part of what makes her therapist so wonderful? Daisy herself. Because people can search and search for a perfect therapist but maybe they will never ever find him or her if they aren't willing or able to be like Daisy. Therapy is a relationship and Daisy holds up her side of that relationship, works hard on her part and because she is able to do that so well her therapist is able to meet her in a place other people can't seem to get to? Maybe they create that place very much together and neither one can do it alone, no matter how skilled a therapist may be? That instead of wishing for a therapist like Daisy's maybe it would be worthwhile to look at how Daisy is and acts within her therapy relationship, at the risks she takes, and contemplate taking some of those same risks too? Could many therapists be potential Daisy Ts and all they need to show that side of themselves is patients as brave as Daisy?
poster:toojane
thread:701683
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